This morning, we had a round two when he was told to pick up the board game he'd been playing with. As soon as his fit started to escalate, into the bedroom we went. This time it only took 5 minutes of storm for him to decide he'd rather put the game away than be stuck there trying to fight to get a swing at me. We didn't have another problem today.
Myself along with other mommies often seek advice for raising our children. We look for a new approach when we can't seem to produce results with our parenting. Sometimes, we truly need advice, but other times, I think we just need someone to say, "Find your self-discipline and stay on your game." There is no way in the world I can pretend that I am 100% consistent in disciplining my kids. If I'm in the middle of something important or timely, like dinner or a phone call, they know that it's a good time to try to get away with something. If my patience is wearing thin, I sometimes choose to pretend not to notice mild misbehaving instead of flying off the handle because I'm about to pull my hair out.
I'm reminded that raising my children isn't just a fun thing I get to do. It's a JOB, and I have responsibilities to fulfill just like I did when I was working for an employer. There is a difference between a mom who stays home with her kids and a mom who stays home to RAISE her kids. The mom who stays home with her kids is the type who does what she pleases and tends to the basic needs of her kids. She provides entertainment for them in the form of toys or videos, feeds them lunch, changes, bathes, and cleans up after them. The mommy who stays home to RAISE her kids is actively involved in their daily life. She acts as a leader of play and learning, and her attention is focussed on her children rather than her own interests. No, her interest IS her children!
Oh, how I hope to consistently be the mom who is raising her kids! I hope that weeks like these last few- when I'm swamped with tasks outside my mommy duties- are not the ones that stick in my kids' minds.